How to give children sexual education?
Sexual education is an ongoing process throughout life. The lack of knowledge and the place of exaggerated and false sexual beliefs in the formation and continuation of sexual problems are known facts today.
Sexual myths that limit the free and healthy living of sexuality, especially stereotypes are seen in our country as taboo. As these issues become accessible, many sexual dysfunctions may be prevented.
Sexual education in the child includes a learning process that starts in the family and continues throughout the life with school, teacher, peer groups, media and health professionals. While we all learn something new every day in sexuality, as is the case in all subjects, it is especially important that children are trained to make a healthy transition to adolescence and adulthood. For this, everyone has individual, family and social responsibilities.
A good sexual education includes knowledge, skills, appropriate attitudes and values. Sexual skills also coincide with skills in individual and social life. Skills such as speaking, listening, expressing emotions, making decisions, making choices are common effective communication skills. In addition, acceptance of differences is the primary factor in achieving appropriate attitudes and values. In particular, group training prepares an environment in which different views can be recognized and discussed. Regardless of race, gender, religion, denomination and culture, gaining a flexible attitude and respect for differences are the values that must be gained. During sexual education, concepts such as homosexuality and transsexuality should be included. It should not be forgotten that gay, bisexual individuals are social reality and one of us.
Sexual education in the child should be made in accordance with the characteristics of the period by paying attention to the age and development periods of the individual. A suitable education to start as a parent at child age provides convenience in terms of discussing and eliminating sexual problems during adolescence. Developing a common emotional language with children and adolescents depends on the communication skills of adults. It is important to give clear and simple answers to children’s questions and to relate sexuality to everyday, interpersonal issues. Active and participatory methods to be made through games are always more effective than sexually boring didactic trainings. Printed educational material and sexual education programs should be prepared by adapting to culture.
4–7 years of sexual education:
- Promotion of reproductive organs
- Identify male and female gender and differences
- To teach the child to have a voice on his own body. In order to prevent abuse, it is aimed to learn the difference between good and bad touches and to ensure individual safety.
7-11 years of sexual education:
- Basic information about reproductive physiology
- Information about friendships of the opposite sex
11-14 years of sexual education:
- Individual rights and preferences in relations with the opposite sex
- Information on interactions that may be risky in terms of health and safety
- Simple information about sexually transmitted diseases
- Variety of sexual attitudes and behaviors, respect for differences arising from ethnic and cultural differences
- Marriage, not marrying, parenting
- Biological and social factors in sexual behavior
14-16 years of sexual education:
- Reproductive biology
- Family planning
- Laws and responsibilities related to sexual behavior
- The importance of sexuality
- Sexual abuse and consequences
- Concepts such as marriage, dating, divorce, loving, loving
- Birth, birth control, child rearing